We have all met someone who seems to be able to solve any problem they are faced with, and they are particularly good at giving advice, but that doesn't necessarily mean that they enjoy helping others. By being surrounded with problems to solve and the pain of others, they can actually be brought down, and ultimately feel as though it is their duty to help anyone and everyone, even if they are suffering greatly themselves. They may not want to help people, but so many people are constantly relying on them.
These people are only human and they shouldn't be expected to solve everyone else's problems. It's not right for people to go to them and ask for help, even after they have clearly stated that they are unable or unwilling to offer help to others. They are doing this for their own well being, because too much pressure will slowly destroy them, not just to be harsh to those around them- that's the last thing they want.
Respect should be given to these people. They should be asked how they are doing and whether they are able to help anyone before a request for help is made. When people don't ask either of these questions and simply demand help, they can often get confrontational when help is not given, even though the person is only saying no for their own well being.
The same care and respect should be given to everyone, but those who are seen by others as 'problem solvers' often require slightly more care, as their help can be taken for granted, which is unfair on them.
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